What to do when your child refuses to do homework

When your child would rather battle with you than do homework, it’s time to set firm limits.  Your child may openly refuse to do homework or lie to you or the teacher about why it hasn’t been done.  You must make it clear that choosing not to do homework is choosing not to enjoy certain privileges.

 

1.     State clearly how you expect homework to be completed.

Say, “I expect you to do all of your homework every night.  Under no circumstances will I tolerate your refusing to do your assignments.”

2.     Back up your words with action.

Say, “You can choose either to do your homework or to lose these privileges: You will not leave this house. You will not watch TV, listen to music, or use the telephone.  You will sit here until all of your homework is done.  The choice is yours.”  Stick to your demands.  It may take your child several days to realize that you mean business.

3.     Praise your child when homework is completed. 

Say, “You’ve been getting all of your homework done.  You should feel proud of yourself.”

4.     Use a homework contract.

This motivator is a written, signed agreement between you and your child that states a reward or a point toward a prize will be earned for each day that homework is brought home and completed.  (The younger the child, the more quickly the prize is earned.)

5.     Contact the teacher.

If problems continue, request that additional discipline be provided at school for incomplete assignments.  Your child will learn that the school is supporting your efforts.

 

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